Comparison, offense, overwhelm…. OH MY
If you’ve been on any form of social media, or seen any type of ad lately, you’ve been exposed to a major buzz word…
the practice of taking action to preserve or improve one’s own health.
Reality is, this is not new. The self care movement has been growing, but man has it boomed in the last month! The COVID-19 crisis has shaken us up to realize how important filling up our own cup is in maintaining wellness.
I mean self care is everywhere on the internet- A quick Google search will give you about 2,830,000,000 results in 0.51 seconds!
Whew, that is also known as OVERWHELMING.
As a wellness coach, Yes- I share self care tips because I love to give away what I believe is essential during this time and help others who need to hear it.
BUT nothing compares to the one on one work I get to do with my clients. When I work with a client, we are able to collab on what SHE needs most to move forward. Not what some textbook says or what I think is best for her- intuitively, what she feels inspired to do to benefit her wellness and what she can incorporate into her daily life based off the time and the resources that she has.
When my clients see first hand how important self care is (and how to infuse it with self love) THEY are able to transform viewing ‘me-time’ as selfish into it being a necessity for their wellbeing.
Maybe you can relate. It is very common for women to feel this way.
Maybe you feel guilty or wrong for taking time out of the day to fill up your own cup.
Maybe you are used to taking care of everyone else, or maybe you just like to take care of everyone else because that is all that you know how to do.
These are very common and real things! I know first hand, that putting other people first is a great act of service, yes, BUT it also can be used as a great distraction to your OWN internal condition. I did it in the past and I know EXACTLY why. It can be easier to help others with their ‘problems’ vs. dealing with yours.
But short term numbing, and distraction from any root cause leads to long term discomfort, pain, and even dis-ease.
& then there is the ‘must be easy for her’ type thinking. I’ve seen it all over social media and I have thought it before myself. It is natural for humans to see something we don’t have, but really do desire deep down and think ‘huh, must be nice…’
If you are a women who is busy beyond belief at the moment with work, kids, etc. you may also think when looking at some of the self care tips and posts, “who the hell has time for all this?!”
Keep this in mind:
- Social media posts are not specific to YOU. It is a generic suggestion. How could it possibly be catered exactly to you when it is on a social platform broadcasted to the masses?
- Please don’t take anything online like an Instagram or Pinterest post as a slap in the face. Never make an assumption (consciously or subconsciously) that anything was made to purposely offend you.
- Ditch comparison. Use the posts as INSPIRATION or ideas, not for RULE FOLLOWING TO A ‘T’ ADVICE. See it as, if this is possible for her, it can be possible for me too.
- You simply can NOT take what you see online as the end all be all to your problems. Really, when has following anything like a generic textbook actually been realistic for you, a unique individual.
YOUR LIFE IS NOT TEXTBOOK. LIFE IS DYNAMIC & YOU ARE UNIQUE.
What you can learn how to do is embrace the natural ebb and flow of life and honor what feels good to YOU. You CAN learn how to rewrite your OWN story. Not using some generic, outdated textbook, but based off how you desire to show up, feel and exist in this world.
Okay, okay…back to self care:
It IS really important. It’s importance can best be emphasized with this question: How else can you really take care of something or someone else if you don’t FIRST take care of yourself?
And TRUST ME, what you see on Pinterest simply cannot replace the value you get from working with a coach! Especially one that infuses self love and self care into an individualized wellness program WITH you in mind.
I am excited to share that I am offering 30 minute complimentary wellness assessment calls for a limited time so YOU can learn how to use this time to improve the areas of your wellness that are often overlooked (yet extremely powerful and vital).
Learn why the intention behind self care is more important than what you do for self care in the first place, a component that most people miss!
It comes down to this: I want to help YOU. If you are a women feeling lost, overwhelmed, worried, or even just curious to learn more about how self care, & other tried and trusted wellness methods I infuse into my coaching, can help YOUR unique life, reach out today.
It is so important to do what you can NOW in optimizing your wellbeing in the future.
I hope to meet YOU soon and collab on ways YOU can improve your wellness today!