Oh the holidays, a time to be merry and jolly and sing Christmas Carols and all that. But also the time where people are driving 10x crazier than normal and traffic is unreal. A time to be in the Holiday Sprit and to be around family, but also a time where people are rushing around spending money on materialistic things instead of forging deeper meaningful connections.
I see holiday tips and survival guides on social media and programs that you can buy to learn how to keep your cool with surface level tips and tricks.
Here is what I think: You do not need a holiday survival guide, you are not in a war zone.
WE are the ones who put stress, pressure, expectations of perfection on ourselves which is why we feel we need a rescue team to get us through the holiday season.
If you really think about it come Dec 26th, it is totally unnecessary to be so stressed out about all of this.
Here are my tips to you during the holiday season, and beyond:
#1. First thing in the morning, right when you wake up, start with gratitude and appreciation. Find at least 3 meaningful things that you are grateful for. This will set the tone for the rest of your day and help you find your way to joy.
#2. Understand that you can not control other people, their thoughts, words, feelings, past, future.
#3. Look internally if you have an issue. Something someone said or did annoy, bother, upset you? Before reacting, ask why? What is the part of me that is bothered, annoyed, upset by this? Remember that you have control over how you see other people, how you react to them, and what you let effect you.
#4. Practice sending love and light to your loved ones, no matter where they are or if they are still in your life. You will feel more love yourself if you send it out to others.
#5. Choose to spend time with people who lift you up, who are authentic and where you feel like you can be the real you.
#6. Set an intention for the day, party, event, etc. like “I choose to find the greater good and to see the innocence in everyone I greet today.” or “I choose to focus on the happy, feel good thoughts and moments today.” or my favorite and the easiest one to implement right now, “ I CAN HANDLE THIS.”
#7. Make the commitment to your happiness, everyday.
Repeat after me “ I CAN HANDLE THIS.”